I like being the nice guy. I like to help when it is my power even if it cost me. I am not a rich person, as a matter of fact I live between paydays. I never ask anything from any one but in my own way I don't want to be disrespected for helping them.
A few weeks ago my son called me, on this day, and whined about his child payment that she screwed up on. I listened for a long time and then told him "We can take care of it." I payed on that debt without even a thank you.
This morning I get another call from Zac. He is upset with other issues and wants me to make him feel good. I do, but there is the outstanding issue of the storage units, they are delinquent again. He got in my face about it this morning and in return I got in his face, this was not a cuddle day! He tried to bring the responsibility down on me; trying to prove I was the bad person.
Okay, I am going to try and calm down. I pay $30/month on my unit and $50/month on his. He paid once in two years and is jackin his jaw at me because I am late on a payment. I reminded him that I paid his child support, and he reminded me he didn't ask. I am grateful to know how my own son truly feels about life because it will save me a lot of time, money, and gas.
I love m son but I hate the person he has become. Any advise better be good cus I'm not in the mood!
(Sorry, not so "me" today.)
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Thank you for coming by, this was a surprise.
BUT as parents...the best we can do is try to remain calm and let them know that they need to be responsible and responsibility is not easy. Like what I have had to do with my son concerning his school work. An extra year of HS...it disappoints me but he needs to sit up and take notice and become more responsible for his life even if he doesnt' want to.
He knows you are there and you care...but he needs to take over. I suggest you pay for YOUR storage unit and if he loses his and everything in it, there is his big lesson. Right? It is just stuff, not life and death. He can replace it someday, when he is more responsible about his life.
You have done good. I feel I am doing a good job. But our society tells them another story. We just have to wait for them to hear our voices above the din.
I am glad you reminded him that you had already helped him...
I am with Heather on this one.
ron
Thanks so much for stopping by and thanks for being you.
I need more Cuddle in my life!
I think you did great by reminding him that you had already helped him by paying HIS child support FOR HIM.
I think I would tell him that he obviously doesn't seem to feeling much in the respect department where his dad is concerned. Maybe he needs to learn to be a more responsible adult & pay his OWN bills - child support & building rental. If he misses his payment & they keep/sale his stuff, then he did it too himself & cannot blame you.
I'm sure it's hard, but the only way he'll learn is by having to. Good luck!
I am grateful to have friends like you in my life.
I am glad to hear that there is hope with our children growing up. Have a great day.
ron
Sorry to hear you are having a few rough moments with your son. I can't tell you all ready in our young parenthood how many times Honey and I have looked at each other and have asked... so WHY did we want to have kids again??? What were we thinking!!!!!
All of those money moments are yet to come for me....
Hope you're having a better day today, Cuddle.
Thinking of you!
Sincerely ~Kenzie
I am sure when the time comes you and Honey will do just fine. I can't promise that it will be any easier but at least you have each other.
See ya soon, I see you posted.
For me, the issue has never been the money, it is the ungrateful attitude he gets at times. That is when we start to clash, because he is exactly like me when it comes down to being hard-headed. Just another reason why I love him so much.
Thank you for coming by, this was a first for you here. Welcome to my happy family.
I know what you mean about the attitude & being ungrateful. My son is like that too sometimes. He's getting better, but still has his moments.
Now that you are a real adult, don't forget the rest of us kids that enjoy sharing your life with you.
Keep the Faith~ Cuddle
What is with their sense of entitlement? I dunno.... Sometimes it drives me nuts!
It'll all work out eventually (hopefully). Hang in there. One day he'll realize all you've done for him.
Take care!
Sometimes lessons come to us the hard way yet in the end we do learn and grow in experiencing them.
Hope today is much better and he shows true appreciation for all you do for him.
Bear Hugs!
PolarB ;)